Okay, so, the other day I was chatting with my friend Sarah, and she’s totally head-over-heels for this Gemini guy, Mark. She was driving herself crazy trying to figure out if he felt the same way. I’ve been down that road before, so I decided to dig into my past experiences and notes to help her out. Here’s what I did:
Started with the Basics
First, I pulled out my old journals. I dated a Gemini years ago – total whirlwind, but I learned a lot. I also remembered some solid advice my aunt, who’s an astrology buff, gave me.
Deep Dive into My Journals
- I started flipping through pages, looking for patterns in my ex’s behavior. Lots of scribbled notes about spontaneous trips, long phone calls, and endless debates about everything and nothing.
- I highlighted key phrases like “he kept me guessing,” “always something new,” and “never a dull moment.” It’s all coming back to me now!
The “Aunt’s Wisdom” Recall
I called up my aunt and reminded her about that conversation we had years ago. She laughed and said, “Oh honey, Geminis, they’re a chatty bunch! But it’s more than just talk.” She reminded me to look for:
- Genuine curiosity: Does he ask about your day and actually listen to the answer?
- Sharing his inner world: Gemini men can be private, so if he’s opening up, that’s big.
- Playful teasing: A little playful banter is their love language.
- Intellectual connection: Does he try to engage you in conversations he finds interesting?
- Lots of communication:Texts, calls, maybe even surprise visits…
Putting it Together for Sarah
I compiled all this info into a little cheat sheet for Sarah. I told her to observe Mark’s actions, not just his words. I broke it down like this:
- Observe how often he initiates contact. Is he texting you just to chat, or is it always about making plans?
- Pay attention to the quality of your conversations. Are they deep and meaningful, or just surface-level?
- Notice if he remembers the little things you tell him. Does he bring up something you mentioned in passing days later?
- Watch his body language. Does he maintain eye contact? Does he mirror your gestures? that’s a big sign.
The “Aha!” Moment
After a week, Sarah called me, practically buzzing with excitement. “He remembered I mentioned I love lavender lattes,” she gushed. “And he brought me one today, just because! And he started opening up me about stuff with his brother”. It’s all clicked into place. My tips, my journal, aunt’s advice, it helped her see what was right in front of her.
It’s not foolproof, every guy is different. But sometimes, a little observation and a trip down memory lane can make all the difference!
