Okay, so, things with my Scorpio ex were…intense. To say the least. When we broke up, it felt like a door slamming shut, locked, and bolted. I honestly thought that was it. But, I’m stubborn, and well, I missed him like crazy. So, I decided to try and get him back. Here’s how it went down, step-by-step:
Step 1: The Disappearance Act (aka Giving Him Space)
First, I did the hardest thing imaginable: I vanished. No calls, no texts, no social media stalking (okay, maybe a little stalking, but I didn’t engage!). Scorpios, from what I’ve learned, need their space, especially after something emotional. They’re like wounded animals; they need to retreat to their cave to lick their wounds. So, I became a ghost. It was brutal, but crucial.
Step 2: The Self-Improvement Project
While I was “gone,” I didn’t just sit around moping (well, not all the time). I knew I needed to work on myself. Not for him, but for me. I started hitting the gym harder, focused on my work, and even picked up a new hobby – pottery! It was surprisingly therapeutic. The point was to become the best version of myself, someone confident and independent.
Step 3: The Subtle Re-emergence
After a few weeks of radio silence, I started to subtly re-appear. Not directly to him, but in the world. I posted a picture on Instagram of my (slightly lopsided) pottery creation. I shared an article related to my field on LinkedIn. Nothing about him, nothing desperate, just… living my life. The goal was to show, not tell, that I was doing well.
Step 4: The Accidental (Planned) Run-In
Okay, this part was a little sneaky. I knew he frequented a certain coffee shop on Saturday mornings. So, I “happened” to be there too, looking fabulous (thanks to the gym and a new outfit), reading a book. I didn’t make eye contact immediately. I let him “discover” me. When he did, I gave a small, surprised smile, and a genuine “Oh, hi!”
Step 5: The Calm Conversation
We chatted. Briefly. I kept it light, friendly, and most importantly, not about the breakup. We talked about the book I was reading, the coffee, the weather. I made sure to project an aura of calm confidence. No pleading, no drama. The old me might have broken down, but the new me was chill. I ended the conversation first, saying I had to run, leaving him wanting more (hopefully!).
Step 6: The Slow Burn
After that, I let things simmer. No immediate calls or texts. I waited a few days, then sent a short, casual text – something like, “Hey, it was good seeing you the other day. Hope you’re having a good week.” No pressure, no demands. Just a friendly ping.
Step 7: The Apology (and the Ownership)
When we eventually did talk more seriously, I apologized. Not a groveling apology, but a sincere one. I took ownership of my part in the breakup. I said something like, “I’ve had time to reflect, and I realize I messed up in [specific way]. I’m truly sorry for that.” Scorpios respect honesty and accountability.
- Key takeaway: Don’t blame them. Even if you feel they were also at fault, focus on your actions.
Step 8: The Gradual Rebuilding
From there, it was a slow, gradual process of rebuilding trust and connection. We started with occasional texts, then moved to phone calls, and eventually, dates. I let him set the pace. I didn’t push for anything. I focused on showing him, through my actions, that I had changed and that I valued him.
And it finally worked. It wasn’t easy, and it took time and a whole lot of patience,and it’s not a guarantee for every situation, but by giving him space, working on myself, and approaching things with maturity and honesty, I managed to get my Scorpio man back.
We’re still together, and things are…better. Different, but better. It’s like we had to break apart to build a stronger foundation. The key, I think, was proving to him that I was capable of change and that I respected his need for space and emotional honesty.
