Okay, so I’ve been seeing this question pop up everywhere online: “Do Aquarius men come back?” And honestly, I get it. I went through a messy breakup with my Aquarius ex a while back, and I spent way too much time Googling the same thing. So, I figured I’d share my experience and what I did, for anyone else going through this rollercoaster.
The Initial Breakup (Ugh)
First off, breakups with Aquarians are… weird. It wasn’t some huge blowout fight. It was more like he just… drifted away. Less texting, fewer calls, and then the dreaded “we need to talk” conversation. He said he needed “space” and “freedom” – classic Aquarius, right? I was devastated, confused, and, yeah, a little angry.
The “No Contact” Phase (Hardest Thing Ever!)
After the breakup, I did what every internet article told me to do: I went “no contact.” This means absolutely zero communication. No texts, no calls, no social media stalking (okay, I might have peeked at his Instagram once or twice, but I’m only human!). It was brutal. Every fiber of my being wanted to reach out, to beg him to come back, to just know what he was thinking.
- Deleted his number: This was tough, but it helped me resist the urge to text him when I was feeling weak.
- Muted him on social media: I didn’t want to see his face popping up all the time. It was too painful.
- Stayed busy: I threw myself into work, hung out with friends, started a new hobby (pottery, surprisingly fun!). Anything to keep my mind off him.
Focusing on Myself (Easier Said Than Done)
This is the part where everyone tells you to “focus on yourself” and “work on your own happiness.” And honestly, it’s good advice, even if it feels impossible at first. I started doing things I enjoyed, things I’d put off while I was in the relationship.
I start:
- Working out :hit the gym.
- Reading :Rediscovered my love for reading.
- Meeting New Friends:Spent more time with friends and even made some new ones.
Slowly, I started to feel… better. I wasn’t obsessing over him as much. I was actually enjoying my life again.
The Unexpected Text (!!!)
Then, about three months after the breakup, it happened. I got a text from him. It was short and simple: “Hey, how are you?” My heart leaped into my throat. I waited a few hours before responding, just to gather my thoughts (and, let’s be honest, to play it a little cool). I kept my reply casual, just saying I was doing well and asking how he was.
The Slow Reconciliation (Or Not)
We started texting back and forth, slowly at first, then more frequently. He eventually admitted that he’d missed me and that he’d made a mistake. We met up for coffee, talked things through, and… well, it’s complicated.
We didn’t just jump back into a relationship. It took time, and a lot of honest conversations. We had to address the issues that led to the breakup in the first place. And frankly, there was always that doubt in my mind: Would he just disappear again?
My Conclusion (It’s Not a Guarantee)
So, do Aquarius men come back? Sometimes, yes. But it’s not a guarantee. The “no contact” rule, focusing on yourself – it’s not some magic formula to get your ex back. It’s about creating a better life for you, regardless of whether he comes back or not.
In my case, we did eventually get back together, but it was a long and winding road. And honestly, even now, there’s a part of me that wonders if it’ll last. But I’m stronger now, more independent, and I know that I’ll be okay, no matter what happens. That’s the real lesson I learned through all of this.
