Okay, so I had this HUGE crush on this Aquarius guy, super smart, kinda quirky, and totally aloof – classic Aquarius, right? I tried the usual stuff, you know, being extra nice, laughing at his jokes (even when they weren’t that funny), but it was like talking to a wall. He’d just smile politely and go back to whatever fascinating thing he was reading. So, I decided to switch things up. I needed a new strategy, a way to, shall we say, inspire him to chase me.
Phase 1: The Disappearing Act
First, I stopped being so…available. I used to text him back instantly, always be around when he was, basically make it clear I was interested. Nope, not anymore. I started being “busy.”
- Delayed Responses: I waited a few hours, sometimes even a day, to reply to his texts. Made it seem like I had a life (which, I mean, I do, but I wanted him to really see that).
- Strategic Absence: If he was at a group hangout, I might “suddenly” have other plans. Or I’d show up late and leave early. The goal was to be present, but not too present.
It felt weird at first, like I was playing games, but honestly, it started working. He started initiating conversations more. He’d ask what I was up to, where I’d been. Curiosity piqued!
Phase 2: Intellectual Stimulation (aka Nerd Bonding)
Aquarius guys are all about the mind, right? So, I focused on that. I already knew he was into astronomy (he had a telescope!), so I started doing a little “research.”
- Casual Knowledge Bombs: I’d casually drop interesting facts about space into conversations. Like, “Hey, did you see that article about the new exoplanet they discovered? Pretty wild, huh?”
- Asking “Deep” Questions: Instead of just agreeing with everything he said, I started asking him questions. “What do you think about the possibility of life on other planets? Do you think we’ll ever be able to travel to them?”
This was KEY. He loved talking about this stuff, and he clearly appreciated that I was genuinely interested. He started explaining things to me, sharing articles, even inviting me to look through his telescope one night (score!).
Phase 3: Embracing My Inner Weirdo
Aquarians are attracted to uniqueness, to people who aren’t afraid to be themselves, even if that self is a little…different. So, I stopped trying to be the “cool girl” and just embraced my own quirks. I started the implement of the following ways:
- Show your passion. No matter how niche or nerdy.
- Show your creative side. Show them what you’re making.
- Be open-minded. It’s always a good idea to be open to new experiences.
It wasn’t always smooth sailing. There were times I thought I’d blown it completely. But then he’d surprise me by asking me about my day, or remembering something small I’d mentioned weeks ago. That’s when I knew it was working. He was starting to see me, the real me, and he was intrigued.
The “chase”? It wasn’t a dramatic, movie-style pursuit. It was more like a slow burn. He started inviting me to things more often, initiating conversations, making an effort to spend time with me. And eventually, well, let’s just say we’re now officially “dating.” And yes, he admits he did the chasing. 😉
