I’ve always had a particular mentor I adored. He once said, "Most of the time, people aren’t really communicating with each other; there are only failed misunderstandings and successful misunderstandings." I’ve heard about or experienced many unsuccessful relationships, and it’s not because the two people stopped loving each other. It’s mostly due to misunderstandings – they might care deeply for each other, but just don’t know how to express it. Or one party might be trying to love the other in their own way, but it’s not the kind of love the other person wants or can receive, leading to dissatisfaction and even anger. Misunderstandings have worn down many relationships, causing countless regrets, especially among those closest to us, like our partners and parents.
In fact, each zodiac sign has its own preferred and more easily acceptable ways of showing love, as well as their unique ways of expressing it.
Let’s talk about fire signs first. Their requirements for love are simple: they want directness. If you love me, actions speak louder than words. They disdain the subtle and roundabout ways of expressing "I love you," like saying "The moon is so beautiful tonight" instead. They either don’t bother to think about what you’re saying or feel that you don’t love them enough to have the courage to say it out loud. Fire signs place a high value on the present moment and believe that now is always the most appropriate time. If you’re not there for them when they need you, they’ll feel you’re not needed at all. They tend to give up if you promise them a beautiful future but can’t provide for them in the present. They value the timeliness of emotions and believe that once the moment passes, there’s no point in discussing it anymore.
In parent-child relationships, fire signs also approach things similarly. They show love by buying things for their children or giving them a good scolding when they’re angry. But they’re also very stubborn and will often hide their anxiety behind a facade. They want their children to be the best and are eager to help them. If you have a fire sign partner or mother, you might feel the pressure to meet their high standards and accept their dominance. But making them happy isn’t hard – just praise them sincerely.
Now let’s talk about earth signs. They’re the least likely to openly express love among the zodiac signs. I don’t know what they’re worried about, but they often keep their love to themselves. Part of it might be pride, even with family, they find it difficult to express their true feelings. Part of it is also that they genuinely don’t know how to express themselves. They can only convey about 20% of their true feelings, so the rest is up to you to figure out. Earth signs hope their partners can see through their reserve and be a bit more forward. They don’t mind being clingy or proactive, so don’t be afraid just because they seem less. Being proactive and persistent with earth signs is a surefire way to make them happy.
When it comes to parent-child relationships, earth signs aren’t particularly good at it either. They’re usually not very close or affectionate and tend to be strict and demanding parents. They keep their difficulties to themselves and don’t express them. Therefore, earth signs actually need more proactive care and encouragement. A friend of mine has a Capricorn mother, who never shows much happiness when receiving gifts, but she cherishes them and uses them for many years. So, to make earth signs happy, you need to see through their cool exterior to their deep desire for warmth and love. Tell them you love them without any reservations.
Air signs are the opposite of earth signs. They know how to express their feelings, and what they express is often more than what they actually feel inside. They can effortlessly say things that touch your heart or do things that make you feel loved. It all comes naturally to them. What they crave is understanding – understanding of who they are, appreciation of their strengths, and comprehension of their needs. Doubt and mistrust from others can cause them immense stress. People always say air signs freedom, but this freedom isn’t necessarily physical. They can accept being close to someone and even report to them, as long as there’s trust. This trust is key to them feeling loved. In fact, air signs have the highest demands for love. You need to be very clear about their boundaries – too loose or too tight is a sign that you don’t understand them well enough.
In terms of parent-child relationships, air sign mothers are usually quite lenient and don’t impose too many demands or restrictions. However, they do want their arrangements and good intentions to be accepted and understood. If you show resistance or reject them, they’ll feel like failures.
Water signs have a high demand for emotional connection and are quite sensitive, but they’re not that difficult to deal with. The key is whether you value them enough. For example, when giving them a gift, it doesn’t have to be the most expensive, but you must put thought and time into it. Do they really like it? They value the sense of ceremony because it makes them feel cherished and like they’re the focus of your attention at that moment. They also create this sense of ceremony and want it to be recognized. A friend of mine has a Scorpio mother who, after cooking, always demands that everyone come to the table immediately and eat everything. If she has to call three times, she’ll threaten to never cook for them again. Water signs worry about being replaced or no longer being the most important person in someone’s life. Things like losing passion in a relationship or children growing up and becoming less dependent can make them feel lost.
So, whether you have a water sign partner or mother, the key to making them feel loved is to never forget any special moments and to celebrate them with a sense of ceremony. Be there for them when they call, proving that they will always be the most important and special person in your heart.
I recently watched "The Best Divorce" with a friend who loves it. She said it was so well done because it captures the reality of relationships – when you’re alone, you might miss the other person and feel affectionate, but as soon as you talk, your tone hardens and you end up arguing. Why is that? It’s often the case in real life. We fail to communicate effectively most of the time and are often self-centered, rarely considering the other person’s perspective and what they really want. We’re also often impatient with our loved ones, thinking that occasional neglect or arguments won’t damage the relationship. This attitude may be even more prevalent with our mothers, who seem to tolerate more than our partners because they’re always there for us and are the least likely to leave.
Many mothers’ concerns may seem inappropriate, and this is often a source of complaints. People always feel that their mothers don’t understand them and sometimes even hurt their feelings. But they’re probably doing the best they can. We often complain about our mothers pushing us to get married, have children, stay in our hometown, or take a civil service exam, and bombarding us with health tips. However, we rarely show them enough care and love. Most of us don’t even make an effort to find out what they like to eat, who their best friends are, or whether they have any aches and pains. We don’t send them useful health tips, and we rarely think about how hard they have it, quietly enduring their struggles in places we don’t see. When we were little, we would pout and tell our mothers about our grievances and ask for hugs. As adults, we’re often too embarrassed to do so, sometimes even forgetting to express our love and concern.
Most of us have stopped expressing love and dependence to our mothers and can’t even say whether our love is timely or what our mothers want. Starting this new year, why not try to express our love for our mothers more often? Give them more hugs like we did when we were little, pay more attention to their health, and show them we care, just like they do for us.
Recently, I attended an event where Caltrate collaborated with Tmall to launch a "New Year Bone Health Special Train" in Hangzhou Metro, hoping to remind people to pay more attention to their mothers’ health. The train was decorated with things people are too shy to say to their mothers, encouraging people to resume close interactions with their mothers and support each other. They also launched a "Bone Health Radio," where you can listen to touching stories about mothers recorded by different people. I shared a friend’s story.
On January 7th, Caltrate, in partnership with Tmall, launched the "Bone Health Hug CP Set," which includes glucosamine and liquid calcium. The blue joint energy bottle is for mothers, providing daily adequate glucosamine to effectively care for joint health and give mothers’ joints more strength. The red bone strength mini-bottle is for oneself, helping to delay bone loss and replenish calcium early to retain calcium.
From January 7th to January 9th, the store has multiple gifts;, purchasing liquid calcium or glucosamine gives you a chance to win products for free.
Click [here] to give your mother an encouraging hug and send a gift that conveys your love. Don’t forget, among the twelve zodiac signs, mothers are always the ones we should love the most and are forever our CP.
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