Okay, so I’ve been seeing a lot of questions floating around about Aquarius men and when they’re, like, totally over a relationship. And since I recently went through this myself, I figured, why not spill the tea and share my experience? Hopefully, it helps someone else out there navigate this tricky situation.
It all started, as these things often do, with a subtle shift. We’d been together for, oh, I don’t know, about eight months? Things were pretty good, lots of laughs, shared interests, you know, the usual honeymoon phase stuff. But then… I started noticing he was getting distant.
The First Signs
- Less Contact: This was a big one. We used to text all day, cute little messages, inside jokes. Suddenly, it was like pulling teeth to get a response. He’d take hours, sometimes even a whole day, to reply.
- Excuses, Excuses: We had our regular date nights, right? Movie nights, dinners, weekend trips. All of a sudden, he was “busy” all the time. Work was crazy, his friend needed help, his cat was sick (again!). You name it, he had an excuse.
- Lack of Enthusiasm: Even when we did hang out, he just seemed…blah. No spark, no excitement. It was like he was physically present but mentally checked out. He’d be on his phone a lot, scrolling through who-knows-what.
I tried to talk to him about it, of course. I’m a big believer in communication. But every time I brought it up, he’d get all defensive and shut down. He’d say I was being “clingy” or “paranoid” and that everything was “fine.” Spoiler alert: It wasn’t fine.
The “We Need to Talk” Conversation (or Lack Thereof)
The real kicker? There wasn’t some big, dramatic “we need to talk” moment. It was more of a slow fade. He just became increasingly unavailable and emotionally distant. He stopped initiating anything – dates, conversations, even physical affection. It was like he was hoping I’d just get the hint and disappear.
I finally got tired of feeling like I was begging for scraps of attention. So, I sent him a text, a simple “Are we okay?” text. His response? “I don’t know.” That was it. “I don’t know.” That’s when I knew it was truly over. And, honestly, it was a relief. It was better than the constant uncertainty and the feeling of being strung along.
Moving On
I spent a good few weeks wallowing, I have to say. But Then, I got up, and, I deleted his number, unfollowed him on all the socials, and started focusing on myself. It wasn’t easy, but it was necessary. I started hanging out with my friends more, picked up some old hobbies, and just generally tried to rediscover who I was outside of the relationship.
The biggest takeaway from this whole experience? Trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is. And don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t willing to put in the effort. You deserve better. It is a cliche, but time really did a great job in the end.
